How to Win Friends and Influence People
Six ways to Make People like You...
Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
1) "Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
2) "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
3) "Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
I personally agree with this statement and this rule. because you can make friends and that interest you in a nice good way. friends that care about you and what you also say about them. have friends that have good influence, not bad influence. correct each others judgements or opinions about each other. have good talks with them, show them that you are grateful to them, and love them as the way ther are. give them good advice they'll use in the future, or when they need to use it. always help out and try to be fair with those friends. for me making friends is pretty easy but you have to know if you trust them or not, there is a lot of people that are two faces or don't care about you. it's always important too know someone that would really care.
"friendship without interest is one of the rare and beautiful things in life"
Rule 2: Smile
1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2)"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3)"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
I agree with this rule because it shows a lot of respect and what you care about others. being happy is one thing people might not get to be. some are stressed out in life, they don't smile at all when it comes to their daily routine. many other different people have may have a smile on their face almost every other day in their life. staying happy can really help out the negative stuff in your life of course. you can't always force someone to put a smile on one's face, it's just the matter of positive things you do to make that happen. putting a smile on someone else's face could take some time but at the end it would work out eventually and hope that it does.
Rule 3: Remember names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
I agree with this rule because you neeed to find good people around you and remember there names so you could be able to talk to them again. not having to struggle looking for those good people. eventually have good hope for yourself and others too as well. remebering those good names will help you make more friends and get to hang out with them more often and to see each other. giving time to them, thety would care about you and others would remember your name as well, it's very nice knowing a lot of different types of people out there in the world some may be bad, some may be good. it's always good to know who are your favorites and some that are not get the bad negative people away from you.
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
1) "If you aspire to be good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
2) "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants his problems than he is in you and your problems.
this is a true thing to think about and remember about. this could help you a lot with remembering to be a good listener in school and with other people as well. a good listener always remembers how to listen and to pay attention, they take notes or just learn how to memorize things in their head most of the time. they use those skills too listen good and that's how they learn new things. Encourage others to learn how to talk about themselves having a nice simple conversation with them and friends. so they wont be so shy with others, need to be more sociable with people. having problems with others learning how to talk, maybe you could teach them a better way to start a conversation.
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
" The royal road to man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
this is important to remember a man's interest in some things, you could talk about it about them and visualize what they like. many people don't really know how to take things especially men. some are just to serious about things and handle them way to unprofessional. some other men don't take it as serious, because they know how you want to learn about there interest. a lot of people have a heart with their passion and some don't want to stop loving their passion what they do in life. thats why they get motivated and they start working hard. get good jobs get money is what everyone loves to interest them.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-- and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
I really agree with this rule it makes a lot of sense. making other people feel important could make them feel really good about them selves, trying to bring positivity to the world and to people. being nice to them, complementing, caring for them. doing the urge to be respectful to someone else could help the way you may talk to other people or family and friends. this is really important finding new friends and to learn to be polite. everyone should follow this rule, they will feel rewarded by doing this rule. you can do it, possibilities are endless.
Final Reflection: What I feel about these 6 posts is that it is very important of what they say about doing good in life and how to prepare to talk to people you don't know. these rules are great advice for future reference. maybe this could help you learn of something of value. these 6 ways is for people to like your personality and to do well when talking to them. this would make my confidence level go up. just having to be positive about everything not to stress yourself about it.
